How to get your mojo back before it's too late21 Mar 2017
Do you feel like life is passing you by? Like you aren't in control and that you're missing something. And when you look back on your life, it isn't really what you truly hoped it would be.
If you are know what I'm talking about, you will love what I am going to share with you.
Through my years of working as a life coach I know this to be true - what people really want is also really simple, yet so many of us don't manage to achieve that level in our lives.
Ultimately, we all just want to believe in themselves and get rid of the negative bullshit that we tell ourselves everyday.
The truth is that if you aren't telling yourself bad stuff then someone else likely will be. They will put absolute tripe into your grey cells and hey presto, you start to believe it.
When my husband passed away, I was lost, as you can imagine. "What now?" I was wondering what life will now look like for me, and how I would get back on track from this lost feeling that I had inside.
In the end I had lots of time with him before his death, which I am eternally grateful for. This is what he told me.
“Amanda...get happy as quickly as you can, as long as it doesn't hurt you or others, just find happiness, as life is too short.”
And I did. I met Sarah who is now my wife. People told me that it was too soon, that I was still grieving, that it wouldn’t last. What was I thinking, I didn’t date women...the list goes on, there were all sorts of comments.
I know that these comments were coming from a place of love and care, they were concerned for me. But at the end of the day it is my life and I want to live it my way. And so should you. Getting your mojo back is the first step and then you will build and build.
Momentum is a wonderful thing, and the truth is it either builds a negative story or a positive one depending on what you focus is.
It is said in ancient Indian folklore that each person has two wolves inside them. One is positive and one is negative. An old man was explaining this to his grandson, he was spelling out to him the importance of being positive in life and to others and only acting out what the positive wolf wants. The boy asked “But if there are two wolves inside Grandfather, one must win over the other, so which one wins?”
His answer was simple, “The one you feed".
Which one are you feeding? My guess is the negative one most of the time.
Let’s run a wee test, when was the last time you were given a compliment? Think about it and how did that make you feel? Did you say, "Oh thanks very much" and love getting the compliment, or did you shun it by negating the information with something like, “Oh, this old thing, I’ve had it for ages.” You know the kinda thing I mean right? If the answer is yes then you are feeding the negative one.
So, shall we pop the negative wolf on a crash diet?
You can start by downloading my list of Positive Affirmations. Once you take a look over them, I want you to choose three that resonate with you. Write them on a post-it note and pop them on your bathroom mirror, in your car, on your fridge, on your computer screen and say them over to yourself at least three times a day, preferably out loud.
When you say them, notice how you feel. Imagine the positive wolf being fed, puffing up with confidence and pride. And know that you are only feeding one, the right one.