There is often beauty in adversity

27 Sep 2016

Do you know any grumblers?

You know the ones, life is just hard and it's personally picking on them. "It’s too cold, too expensive, too hot, it's cheap and tacky, too old, too modern." Nothing seems to be right but their opinion of it.

You've got to love the grumblers, here’s why. They remind us to connect and be thankful, they remind us that our reality is ours and not theirs, nor is theirs our (thankfully!).

They remind us to keep it real, our real, and see the world how we want to see it.

Recently Sarah and I spent a week in the desert at Burning Man. It was 38 degrees celsius during the day, and 2 degrees at night. Dusty as hell, windy, noisy, untidy oh and dirty too. For two people who live in a squeaky clean, no crumbs on the kitchen bench kind of environment, this is just a total nightmare.

Yet we adapted quickly and had to became at peace with our new level of cleanliness and just got into the flow of it all.
We are good at that as humans. We adapt to our environments really quickly, forgetting what used to be and embracing the 'new' now.
All grumbling does is take us back to the past or create worry for the future. Instead, we need to focus on the now and think about what we need to be grateful for RIGHT NOW. 

There is something really powerful about being in a difficult environment, whether that is the desert or being made redundant, losing a relationship or a loved one, losing your house or your health. It can be very powerful if you just look a little closer.

When the hardship or the discomfort zone has retreated and you are on the up (healthier, healing, loving, working, building, whatever that is for you) then life just seems rosier, even if brief. This allows us to be thankful for what we have in our life, who we are and what we contribute, it allows us to get a new perspective, a new reality.

When I was diagnosed with cancer, my husband Keith was beside my bed the whole time post surgery. I had my kidney out on the 14/11/13 and if someone had whispered into my ear that he, my lovely husband would die a year tomorrow then I would have called them a liar.

But he did on the 15/11/14, a year and a day after my life saving surgery.

Our perspectives following me being diagnosed allowed us to live positively with his diagnosis when it happened. We thought 'well we can beat this, its easy, we have done it before'. We were wrong but the time we shared was richer for our change in reality due to my temporary loss of health. We lived more abundantly and positively.

Following his death more learnings, more growth, more "If only I had learnt that earlier." The lessons came in their time frame.
I know how fragile life can be, I know how with the best plans and resources we cannot be sure so we live it to the full. We run to the roar and embrace life and we are grateful. This is the most important lesson to be grateful, if you get that then grumbling becomes irrelevant, there is no room for it.

So go on, think about it, what are you grateful for? What lights up your life, even if it is only the sun, be grateful that it will rise each day. Do that for you. And don't be a grumbler.